Plan your date in advance, set expectations and ensure your date is in agreement. Know how to get there, where to park, when things are open, etc. Look like you know how to make things happen seamlessly.

Waiting until the last minute may make things spontaneous – or disastrous.

Appropriateness. Make sure what you’ve picked out and/or suggested has some relevance to what this person might actually enjoy. Doing something you both enjoy will go a long way towards relationship building.

Sensitivity. If your date happens on a weeknight, don’t select a movie ending at 11.00 p.m. The more solutions you’ve prepared for in advance, the less anxious your date will be. This clearly shows your thoughtfulness.

Respect. Sure, she or he really looks great and you’re more impressed as the evening goes along. However, don’t push physical attraction too soon. You could be making a serious mistake if you attempt to manhandle her or him.

Listen. Listening is very important at any stage of dating or a relationship. Show her or him you know them better at the end of the date, than you did at the beginning.

Stay Light. Do something positive you both can share in, without it being embarrassing. Select something appealing to your date; i.e., go to a water park if she or he likes water, or an outdoor rock concert if they like the performers. Perhaps, see a romantic comedy or take a hike. Whatever you’re doing, don’t sit and talk about your exes, troubled kids, etc. These are conversation topics which will come later if the relationship progresses.

Connect. Make a real effort to find commonalities. Listen and learn a little about each other’s childhood and past. See if your values and life’s outlook are similar. This is an excellent exploration period.

Anticipate. As always, you should look your best. A light kiss at the end of the night that promises more…someday…is sexier than a lip scrunching passionate kiss that surprises your date and possibly puts him or her off.

Laugh. Laughter is bonding, infectious and attractive. If you’re going to the movies, ensure the film’s funny; if going to a comedy club, know the comedians are funny; or go roller skating and laugh at yourselves. Laughter is a great release for any nervousness.

Show Appreciation. Acknowledge someone’s kindness, thoughtfulness or generosity. Don’t assume anything and don’t come off as being spoiled. Verbally let them know their hard work, planning or good humor didn’t go unnoticed. And, make yourself an irresistible choice for future dates.

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